Do you worry that your desires make you “too much”?

Like wanting more connection, more honesty, or more love means something is wrong with you?

You're not broken—you’re just becoming.

In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m getting all the way real about the internalized guilt so many of us carry when we crave “more” in our relationships. More connection. More truth. More you. And especially inside non-monogamy, where wanting more can trigger every insecurity we’ve ever inherited from monogamy culture.

🔍 We’re unpacking:

• Why wanting more doesn’t make you greedy—it makes you honest
• The myth of being “enough” in non-monogamy and why it’s total B.S.
• How monogamous conditioning gaslights our desire and shrinks our relationships
• What “enough” actually means—and why it’s YOUR definition that matters
• Why non-monogamy isn’t inherently chaotic (but support + tools matter)
• How to let go of the shame and build relationships that are truthful, not performative

✨ If you’ve been asking yourself, “Am I selfish for wanting more?” or “Would they still want others if I were enough?”—this one’s for you. And spoiler: no, you're not selfish. You're self-aware.

Mentioned in this episode:

👉 My 3-month coaching program Breaking Free From Monogamy—for folks ready to stop surviving and start creating love on your terms. Learn more at elleciapaine.com

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Because you’re not too much. You’re just ready to stop pretending crumbs are enough.

And that? That’s the beginning of something real.

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