Be honest. Will you still cancel on events after Covid? Listen in on this encore presentation of Episode 12 with an updated teaching at the top to think ahead to how we can avoid falling back into old habits.

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We want to be invited and do all the things.. aaand sit on the couch to binge Netflix in silence. Sound familiar? Samesies. We want to be able to choose the right things to avoid overfilling our calendars with things that don’t really bring us joy; to avoid FOMO because we’re confident we did indeed make the right choice for us. I’m sharing 4 hacks to make decisions quickly.

Discern what truly brings you joy in that moment - not just what will make your Instagram feed look cooler.

Know that a “hell yes” will haunt you and anything less can be let go.

Buy back your freedom!

Slow down and ask the right questions so you can confidently and peacefully create that space for yourself.

Come leave me a voice memo on hilaryrushford.com/podvip and tell me what you want to talk about next! And share on Instagram @hilaryrushford which decision this helped you make!

Why are we still anxious, competitive, or impatient? Even though we know we dislike that about ourselves and wish we were different? Enjoy this encore of Episode 3 with an updated teaching at the top!

I have - get ready for it - the answers to all your problems. Yes, I’m talking to you, m’dear.

That guy who won’t text you back? Friend who’s making you feel left out? Boss who gives you the worst anxiety? The answer to all their problems too.

I reveal my “3 stages of ish” to get you to clarity, security, and change.

PLUS an incredibly useful one-page worksheet at HilaryRushford.com/podvip. Tuck in your journal or pin to your fridge to track your growth over the months to come, see progress, and celebrate your wins. This step was truly game changing in my own path to more peace and less overwhelm.

What do you think? Does the “3 stages of ish” help? Would LOVE to hear your takeaways @HilaryRushford. Leave me a note below my latest post, whenever you listen, as I read them all.

Sharing a brand new teaching that’s come out of writing my style book.

You have more power and opportunity that ever before to shift your story of what is beautiful, with a few simple, enjoyable actions.

Mentioned in today’s podcast:

• Ep 29: 22 Steps to Feel Better in 1 Day (Easier Than it Sounds)

Please come over to Instagram @HilaryRushford and tell me when you find someone new to follow there. And leave a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip with Q’s or topics to inspire future episodes.

Do you feel guilty you don’t accomplish more? Beat yourself up for not doing more? Feel failure and shame that your list is so long or you’re so far from where or who you desire?

I was shocked in a recent chat on Instagram Stories when 80% of you said yes.

Having explored this pain point in my own life for years, I’m sharing 3 core components I believe will give you more confidence, peace, freedom, and permission.

Episodes referenced:

• Ep 47: Mindful Instagram Challenge for the Everygirl
• Ep 60: The Wand: Change your day in 5 min (+ your inner teen girl)
• Ep 58: Productivity Guilt during Quarantine + the Idealization of Time

Resources referenced:

• Elegant Excellence Goals Journal
• Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown

Come continue the conversation on Instagram at @HilaryRushford or leave a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

I had an aha while writing my style book. I wrote this on a post-it:

“Write for her, not for critics or activists.”

I shared on Instagram Stories and the response was overwhelming.

On today’s episode I teach on who you’re called to.

Whether friendships that feel hard, social media that feels overwhelming, or creativity that feels terrifying.

Imagine a weight being lifted when you realize someone isn’t your responsibility...

Picture fresh enthusiasm when you realize who you ARE called to...

Listen in to feel more freedom in your relationships, creation, and time…

PS We’re hiring! Visit https://deanstreetsociety.com/careers/ to read our current open position.

Share this episode and tag @HilaryRushford, and/or chime in with topics and ideas for future pods at https://deanstreetsociety.com/podvip/.

When you’re frustratingly stuck in a scenario, what do you? Whether a creaky home messing with your morning routine, or an impasse with your husband on where to live. Sharing my advice to a few DMs I’ve received….

Links in the episode:

• Instagram Stories on Shaming
• Elegant Excellence Goals Journal

What would YOU like to chat about next? Leave me a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip and join the conversation in my IG Stories @HilaryRushford!

“My girlfriends have been complaining about weight gain during quarantine. I think they look great! But it makes me so uncomfortable because I’m a larger size than any of them. I know they don’t mean it, but it makes me self-conscious when they judge their own smaller bodies in front of me. Do you have any advice for how to bring this up without making it awkward?”

Let’s talk about The Compliment Sandwich for handling delicate conversations with aplomb.

Links in this episode:

• Episode 49: An Open Letter on Opinion Culture
• My puzzle mat

PS Since recording this episode we had an incredible conversation about shaming on IG Stories which you can find pinned @HilaryRushford.

Please come leave a voice memo at HilaryRushford.com/podvip to submit suggestions, Q’s or topics for upcoming episodes!

How do you show yourself grace in decision making? How do you MAKE big decisions around where to live, career, family?

Answering your Q’s and sharing some of my personal story on these topics.

8 Q’s + Actions to Consider:

1. Zoom out to 10 years and beyond. What do you want to be true at 70?
2. Do the regret test. If you do or don’t do this, might you regret it?
3. Give yourself grace if you don’t have an answer right now. Trust that means it’s not the right time FOR you to have an answer.
4. Envision your day to day. What will this look like on a very practical level.
5. What clues are in your fantasies? Is there a more practical way you could incorporate these?
6. Think medium term. What if this was just for 3 years? What do you want to have saved financially in 18 months?
7. What gives you buzz in your life? Can you find that in different ways in your options?
8. Test it. Whether a trial run, or mentally through journaling, research and conversation. Put yourself in that reality to see how it truly feels.

Listen to Ep 61: Shelter-At-Home Style + Dressing Joyfully for more on #7 and what buzz is in our lives.

Have more Q’s to submit? Visit HilaryRushford.com/podvip. And come join the conversation @HilaryRushford.

PS - Books I’m loving lately That Month in Tuscany and The 7 1/2 Deaths of Evelyn Harcourt

I’ve noticed something in myself and my Elegant Excellence Mastermind students over the past year. Colleagues and coaches have confirmed it for me, and it’s a growing passion for me to help us break through it.

Today the doors open for my brand new course Creative Business Accelerator, with a limited time window to also join my Elegant Excellence Mastermind for the last 6 months of 2020.

Join me on a live call Wednesday/Thursday on The Simplest Way to Launch a New Business or Product for more teaching and details.

I can help you launch in 3-30 days with less overwhelm and procrastination, for more confidence and revenue. At an incredibly affordable price.

Links in this episode:

• Special Bonus Ep: I Owe You an Apology
• Ep 61: Shelter-At-Home Style + Dressing Joyfully
• Photo I mention on my IG feed
• Gal Meets Glam announcement

Have questions? I’m on Instagram @HilaryRushford. Idea for a future podcast? Leave a voice memo with a Q or topic at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

I asked on IG Stories how you’re feeling amidst our global conversation on racism and racial equity.

The most common answers were:

• Ashamed, horrified, devastated at how much I didn’t know I didn’t know.
• Overwhelmed. I feel pressure to speak, but to not misspeak; shamed for being silent, judged for misspeaking, I’m frozen.
• Guilty that I want Instagram to be the place I escape from the anxiety of my day, not the source of it.

Everything I read, the heart was empathetic and compassionate. Wanting to help, support, and love.

And, struggling with not being full-time activists, yet also having woken up.

Unsure how to balance your life, for many entrepreneurs your business, along with not wanting to “move on”.

This is what I’ve been wrestling with myself.

Authenticity is very important to me.

Staying focused on a topic because it’s trendy or there’s pressure, is not the same as a true heart shift.

We show heart shifts, when weeks, months and years from now, we show true life shifts.

In this episode I share principles I’m using to be an ally authentically and sustainably.

• How my “one degree better” principle ties into why the conversation on race feels different this time around
• The 6x3 principle from the ElegantExcellenceJournal.com helps examine us avoid overwhelm or burnout, while committing to action
• My “passion stacking” vision the help us walk out racial equity authentically and impactfully

I am not an expert, I’m simply sharing my own earnest journey feeling compelled to do more.

Imperfectly, I’m sure. Stumbling over my words, I’m sure.

Yet with great empathy and holding space for how many different phases we’re in in this community.

Links mentioned:

• Ep 17: Am I Doing Self-Love Wrong?
• How to be an Anti-Racist book
• The Northern Belle of the South on Instagram

I would absolutely love to hear your thoughts below my latest Instagram post to continue the conversation @HilaryRushford where you can find additional resources I’ve shared in pinned BLM Stories.

Leave me a voice memo with a Q or topic to inspire a future episode at HilaryRushford.com/podvip.

*** Don’t miss my newest course for ENTREPRENEURS opening and closing this month in JUNE! ***