Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD

024: Pushing People Away


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Unresolved CPTSD creates internal pressure that often shows up as pushing people away, even when you desperately want closeness. When your nervous system is running trauma energies, it interprets connection as danger. You flip between caretaking and harsh judgment because your original attachment loop was never closed. The result is confusion, shame, and a sense that you are "too much" or "not enough" in your relationships.

This episode breaks down exactly why this happens and how to interrupt the pattern in real time. You will understand the developmental gap that anxious attachment creates, why you react so intensely to other people's emotions, and what it looks like to regulate before you relate.

Questions you may be asking yourself that are answered in this episode:

Why do I push people away when I want closeness?

Why do I flip between caretaking and resentment?

Why do other people's emotions overwhelm me so quickly?

How can I stay grounded instead of running or attacking?

How do I break the pattern of anxious attachment?

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Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSDBy Dr. Tanner Wallace | CPTSD Resolution & IFS Training | CPTSD Medicine

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