Are most of your compliments a "great job" or "well done?"

Those are shortcut compliments, the least effective form of positive feedback. They are vague and don't provide any insight as to what you liked and why you liked it. They are also ineffective to change behavior because the compliment receivers will not know what behavior led to the compliment.

Limitation 1 – Did you know that many people don't believe or agree with the compliments they receive? If they don't believe in your compliment, they will distrust you more instead of feeling more connected and motivated.

Limitation 2 – The second limitation of "good job" is that it doesn't work when complimenting more senior people like your boss or mentor. "Good job" and "well done" inherently imply that you are judging the other person's actions.

Limitation 3 – The third limitation of "good job" is that it limits your ability to share positive feedback, which is important for nurturing positive relationships. It has a very narrow scope and is usually used for people who excelled or won something, which means it excludes most people from getting a compliment.

Here are 5 better ways to say "good job" or "well done" that work for anyone. These compliments are more thoughtful, effective, and impactful. You can also include more than one in a single compliment for even more impact.

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