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106: how to DETACH from someone you love, loved ⛓️💥🖤 (validation + outcomes) RE-MIX
💛 Free Stuff
Free Attachment Library
(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc)
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET
To Stop Running On Autopilot
💎 Courses
ON SALE:
✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts
(because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they communicate with you)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
ON SALE:
✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in only 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
This episode blends my three most downloaded lessons on how to detach from someone you love, from your ex, from the person whose approval you keep chasing, and from the outcomes that keep you anxious.
Inside this replay you’ll get a mix of:
➞ how to detach from someone you love or loved
➞ how to stop chasing validation + approval
➞ how to detach from outcomes so your nervous system can breathe again
If you’re stuck in that exhausting loop of:
checking your phone
waiting for a text
replaying conversations
craving reassurance
attaching to their approval
or feeling like your day depends on how someone else responds…
…this episode will feel like a warm, honest reset.
Here’s what we go into together:
✶ why your brain stays attached even when YOU want to move on
✶ the belief that creates the most emotional pain
✶ 10 micro habits that make detachment feel doable, realistic, and natural
✶ how to communicate without spiraling or over-attaching
✶ why your anxiety has nothing to do with them and everything to do with your attachment system
✶ how to stop making everything personal
✶ how to choose your own approval first
✶ simple tools like the energy bubble, the validation vault, and the 30-second self check-in
✶ what real inner detachment looks like (without going cold or pretending you don’t care)
And I remind you of the truth:
This isn’t about their reply speed, their energy, or their “mood.”
This is about your anxious brain, your wiring, and your patterns which YOU can change.
If you want deeper support detaching from the obsessive thoughts, the texting anxiety, or the constant need for reassurance, both courses mentioned in this episode are still available in beta at a reduced price. You’ll get email support from me during the beta round too.
💬 Work 1:1 with Me
Personal Coaching
(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy)
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching
(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone)
➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk
CHAPTERS:
00:47 4 Steps to Detach emotionally from outcomes and people you love the most
35:07 How to detach from validation and others approval
1:09:15 How to detach from your EX (and people you loved)
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach
3.5
22 ratings
💛 Free Stuff
Free Attachment Library
(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc)
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET
To Stop Running On Autopilot
💎 Courses
ON SALE:
✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts
(because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they communicate with you)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
ON SALE:
✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in only 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
This episode blends my three most downloaded lessons on how to detach from someone you love, from your ex, from the person whose approval you keep chasing, and from the outcomes that keep you anxious.
Inside this replay you’ll get a mix of:
➞ how to detach from someone you love or loved
➞ how to stop chasing validation + approval
➞ how to detach from outcomes so your nervous system can breathe again
If you’re stuck in that exhausting loop of:
checking your phone
waiting for a text
replaying conversations
craving reassurance
attaching to their approval
or feeling like your day depends on how someone else responds…
…this episode will feel like a warm, honest reset.
Here’s what we go into together:
✶ why your brain stays attached even when YOU want to move on
✶ the belief that creates the most emotional pain
✶ 10 micro habits that make detachment feel doable, realistic, and natural
✶ how to communicate without spiraling or over-attaching
✶ why your anxiety has nothing to do with them and everything to do with your attachment system
✶ how to stop making everything personal
✶ how to choose your own approval first
✶ simple tools like the energy bubble, the validation vault, and the 30-second self check-in
✶ what real inner detachment looks like (without going cold or pretending you don’t care)
And I remind you of the truth:
This isn’t about their reply speed, their energy, or their “mood.”
This is about your anxious brain, your wiring, and your patterns which YOU can change.
If you want deeper support detaching from the obsessive thoughts, the texting anxiety, or the constant need for reassurance, both courses mentioned in this episode are still available in beta at a reduced price. You’ll get email support from me during the beta round too.
💬 Work 1:1 with Me
Personal Coaching
(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy)
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching
(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone)
➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk
CHAPTERS:
00:47 4 Steps to Detach emotionally from outcomes and people you love the most
35:07 How to detach from validation and others approval
1:09:15 How to detach from your EX (and people you loved)
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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