On Attachment

#112: When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Do The Work


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In today's episode, we're talking about what to do when your partner doesn't want to work on the relationship. This is an incredibly common dynamic, to have one partner who wants to actively work on things and another partner who is more resistant (which can often overlap with anxious-avoidant dynamics).

We'll cover:

  • why your partner might be feeling resistant to doing "the work"
  • how different people make meaning out of needing to work on a relationship
  • ways to dismantle fear stories your partner might have
  • why it's entirely valid to value growth in a partnership

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