The Sabrina Zohar Show

124: Why Healthy Love Can Feel Boring: Exploring Secure Relationships


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Ever found yourself attracted to chaos in relationships while feeling "meh" about someone who's actually good for you? In this Valentine's Day special, Sabrina dives deep into why we often mistake drama for passion and peace for boredom. She shares personal stories, including her own journey from choosing unavailable partners to embracing healthy love, and explains the neuroscience behind why stable relationships can feel uncomfortably "boring" at first.

Key Topics:
  • Why our brains are wired to crave relationship chaos
  • The difference between settling and choosing healthy love
  • How to stop self-sabotaging when you meet someone stable
  • The truth about "boring" relationships vs. toxic excitement
  • Practical tools for embracing and trusting healthy love
  • Featured Insights:
    • Dr. Jack Panksepp's research on why toxic love feels exciting
    • Dr. Stan Tatkin's work on mistaking chaos for chemistry
    • Dr. Barbara Fredrickson's theory on building deeper relationships
    • Actionable Tools:
      • The Alignment & Adventure Matrix for assessing relationships
      • Three questions to ask when feeling uneasy in healthy relationships
      • Journaling prompts for rewiring your brain for safety
      • Whether you're single or coupled up this Valentine's Day, this episode provides the framework you need to start receiving the secure, healthy love you deserve.

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