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127: How To Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty or Pushing People Away with Terri Cole


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Welcome back, babes! In today’s episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, I’m joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss, and expert on all things boundaries, people-pleasing, and codependency.

We’re breaking down what boundaries actually are (and what they aren’t), why so many people get them wrong, and how to set them without guilt. Terri also shares her personal journey of leaving the entertainment industry to follow her passion for psychology, plus practical tools to help you stop self-abandoning, start advocating for yourself, and build stronger, healthier relationships.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
  •  The #1 reason people struggle with boundaries (Hint: It starts in childhood)
  •  The difference between a boundary, a preference, and an ultimatum – and how to know which one you’re setting
  •  Why people-pleasing isn’t “nice” – it’s dishonest (and how to stop)
  •  How to handle the guilt that comes with setting boundaries – and why it’s actually a sign of growth
  •  What to do when someone says, “You’ve changed” (spoiler: it’s a good thing)
  •  The truth about texting, boundaries, and dating expectations – why demanding daily texts is not a boundary, it’s control
  •  How to know if your standards are “too high” or if you’re avoiding intimacy
  •  The red flags of high-functioning codependency and how to break the cycle

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