In this episode of A Simple Therapy Podcast, Sindee Gozansky sits down with Nima Rahmany to explore how to break trauma bonds, heal codependency, and create secure love. Together, they unpack the roots of relationship triggers, the anxious-avoidant dynamic, the often-overlooked fawn response, and how unresolved trauma shapes adult relationships. Nima shares his personal healing journey and explains what it really means to become trigger-proof—not avoiding triggers, but learning to regulate, repair, and respond differently. This conversation is especially valuable for therapists and anyone working to heal attachment wounds, stop toxic relationship patterns, and build emotionally safe, secure connection.

00:49 - Meet Nima Rahmany

05:03 - How a Trauma Bond Begins: The Co-Rescuing Operation

10:45 - The Drama Triangle and the Anxious-Avoidant Trap

15:00 - A Note for Therapists Who Won't Touch It

20:48 - The Fawn Response: The Most Insidious Attachment Strategy

22:43 - The Villain's Journey and Integrating Shame

25:54 - Writing the Book for His Son

28:00 - Trauma Is Not What Happened—It's What Happens Inside

31:17 - Triggers as Portals: The Trigger-Proof Model

32:56 - What to Do If You're Stuck in Your Relationship

36:27 - Find a Guide Who's Living It

40:22 - Connect With Nima at becometriggerproof.com​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

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