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130: you think your AVOIDANT is pulling away… but these 5 signs say he’s trying
Is your avoidant partner pulling away… or actually trying?
here are CLEAR signs he IS trying (and he DOES want you.)
If you have an anxious attachment style and you're constantly overthinking your relationship, checking your phone, and wondering “does he even care?”… this episode will change how you see EVERYTHING.
Because here’s the truth no one tells you:
When an avoidant partner tries… it doesn’t look obvious.
No long texts.
No constant reassurance.
No big emotional speeches.
And that’s exactly why you might be missing it… and spiraling instead.
In this episode, I walk you through 5 clear signs your avoidant partner IS trying, even if it feels confusing or triggering:
➞ He comes back after pulling away
➞ He stays instead of running when things get emotional
➞ You see small changes (not big overnight shifts)
➞ He opens up in little moments, not all at once
➞ He starts tolerating emotional discomfort and connection
You’ll also understand:
✨ Why avoidant behavior feels so triggering for anxious attachment
✨ Why you keep thinking “he’s going to leave me”
✨ Why you can’t just “find a secure partner” without becoming secure yourself
✨ How to stop spiraling and reading into every little thing
Because the more you focus on him…
the more anxious you feel.
And the moment you shift back to YOU?
That’s when everything changes
If you’re tired of:
➞ overthinking every text
➞ feeling sick in your chest when he pulls away
➞ wanting to feel calm, secure, and chosen in your relationship
Then this is your next step.
🎧 Listen now and start seeing your relationship clearly.
If you’re ready to stop chasing, stop spiraling, and finally feel secure…
my Secure Woman Protocol walks you through exactly how to rewire your anxious attachment,
regulate your emotions, and feel calm in your relationship
(even with an avoidant partner)
CHAPTER:
00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment in Relationships
01:23 Why you shouldn't RUN from an avoidant
03:32 Sign 01 - He returns
04:48 Sign 02 - your partner STAYS.
07:03 Sign 03 - your avoidant is making SMALLER changes
13:32 Sign 04 - Your Avoidant's OPENS UP
15:13 Sign 05 - he's able to TOLERATE discomfort
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach
3.7
33 ratings
Is your avoidant partner pulling away… or actually trying?
here are CLEAR signs he IS trying (and he DOES want you.)
If you have an anxious attachment style and you're constantly overthinking your relationship, checking your phone, and wondering “does he even care?”… this episode will change how you see EVERYTHING.
Because here’s the truth no one tells you:
When an avoidant partner tries… it doesn’t look obvious.
No long texts.
No constant reassurance.
No big emotional speeches.
And that’s exactly why you might be missing it… and spiraling instead.
In this episode, I walk you through 5 clear signs your avoidant partner IS trying, even if it feels confusing or triggering:
➞ He comes back after pulling away
➞ He stays instead of running when things get emotional
➞ You see small changes (not big overnight shifts)
➞ He opens up in little moments, not all at once
➞ He starts tolerating emotional discomfort and connection
You’ll also understand:
✨ Why avoidant behavior feels so triggering for anxious attachment
✨ Why you keep thinking “he’s going to leave me”
✨ Why you can’t just “find a secure partner” without becoming secure yourself
✨ How to stop spiraling and reading into every little thing
Because the more you focus on him…
the more anxious you feel.
And the moment you shift back to YOU?
That’s when everything changes
If you’re tired of:
➞ overthinking every text
➞ feeling sick in your chest when he pulls away
➞ wanting to feel calm, secure, and chosen in your relationship
Then this is your next step.
🎧 Listen now and start seeing your relationship clearly.
If you’re ready to stop chasing, stop spiraling, and finally feel secure…
my Secure Woman Protocol walks you through exactly how to rewire your anxious attachment,
regulate your emotions, and feel calm in your relationship
(even with an avoidant partner)
CHAPTER:
00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment in Relationships
01:23 Why you shouldn't RUN from an avoidant
03:32 Sign 01 - He returns
04:48 Sign 02 - your partner STAYS.
07:03 Sign 03 - your avoidant is making SMALLER changes
13:32 Sign 04 - Your Avoidant's OPENS UP
15:13 Sign 05 - he's able to TOLERATE discomfort
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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