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You're more than just a body. 你不仅仅是身体而已。

（16:43 完整英语的访谈｜English Interview starts at 16:43）

Alright, this is another one that I often hear and I find it can be a little bit offensive, it's like complimenting body parts. For example, like you have very beautiful legs or... Or other parts. Yeah, or other beautiful parts. Yeah, so yes, that can be, in Western culture, that can be seen as very forward, very aggressive, and almost without fail, any woman that you ask that to is going to kind of seize up and get very defensive and want to go away from you. For a woman asking a man that, it's not nearly as bad, but it's still, I wouldn't consider it very appropriate or very polite. For example, like feeling a guy's arm and then saying that, oh, you have muscle. Yeah. I mean, it's not as bad as the other way around, definitely. But it still wouldn't, generally, be received very well. 

好吧，这是我经常听到的另一个，我发现它可能有点冒犯，就像赞美身体部位一样。比如你有很漂亮的腿或者……或者其他部位。是的，或其他美丽的部位。是的，所以是的，在西方文化中，这可以被视为非常直接，非常有侵略性，而且几乎毫无例外，你要求的任何女人都会变得冷酷并变得非常防御并想要离开你。对于一个女人如果对一个男人这样说，这并没有那么糟糕，但我认为这仍不是很合适或很有礼貌。例如，感觉一个男人的手臂然后说，哇，你有肌肉。是的。我的意思是，绝对没有像男生对女生这样说那么糟糕。但总的来说，它仍然不会被很好地接受。

1.Offensive 冒犯的

2.Compliment 赞美

3.Aggressive 有侵略性的

4.Without fail 毫无意外

5.Seize up 失灵，不动的、变得冷酷

6.Defensive 防御的

7.Appropriate 恰当的

So a better way to compliment somebody and get their attention would be to compliment their clothes or their hair. Accessories. Accessories, yes, correct. Because you think about it in a sense of the person can't really change their body parts. That's just who they are. But a person can... they woke up that morning and they chose to put those clothes on. They chose to style their hair that way. So in a sense, you are complimenting their choices, not their person. And that will be received much more favorably. Yeah, and before we recorded and you told me that it's okay to say someone is beautiful or someone is handsome Yes, that's okay but that's also a very generic term, you know, why are they beautiful? Why are they handsome? Is it their body parts or is it their clothes? Is it their makeup? Is it their hair? That's a lot more general, so that's not necessarily a bad statement, but it's also nice to be specific. So, oh, I really like your hair. I really like that dress you're wearing, or something to that like. 

因此，赞美某人并引起他们注意的更好方法是赞美他们的衣服或头发。或是配件，是的，正确的。因为你从某种意义上考虑，人无法真正改变他们的身体部位。他们就是这样。但是一个人可以……他们那天早上醒来，他们选择穿上那些衣服。他们选择那样设计头发。所以从某种意义上说，你是在赞美他们的选择，而不是他们的人。这将受到更多的欢迎。是的，在我们录制之前你告诉我可以说某人很漂亮或某人很帅是的，没关系但这也是一个非常通用的语言，你知道，他们为什么漂亮？他们为什么帅？是他们的身体部位还是他们的衣服？是她们的妆吗？是他们的头发吗？这更笼统，所以这不一定是一个糟糕的陈述，但具体一点也很好。所以，哦，我真的很喜欢你的头发。我真的很喜欢你穿的那件衣服，或者类似的东西。

8.Accessory 配件

9.Generic 通用的

10.Statement 描述

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