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"Dating is not about finding the perfect person but about finding an imperfect person and seeing them perfectly."

约会不仅仅是寻找完美的人，而是寻找一个不完美的人并完美地看待他们。

（6:43 完整英语的访谈｜English Interview starts at 6:43）

Oh this one I also heard a lot, and actually I heard my friend, he complained to me that once he had his Chinese colleague saying like you look tired and you look fat. Yeah so obviously you know these kind of statements when said by your family or your really good friends you know it's a lot more common you should definitely never ever say these to a person that you're going on a date with or have interest in. Rather than saying those phrases, you should say nothing. Nothing is the best policy. Yes, that is. And I mean if they look like one of those things and you find that undesirable, then maybe just don't go on a date with them again. Well, you know why they say that? I totally understand. It's because you look tired. Can I do something for you to help you not feel so tired? You know, usually it's like care. Yeah, and I understand that. However, there's not really anything you can do for them in the moment of them being tired. They just need to go take a nap. And really it's a pointless statement because you can't help them, and the next time you see them they may not be tired. They are just insults to their look. So yeah, just say nothing. 

哦，这个我也听到很多，实际上我听到我的朋友，他向我抱怨说有一次他的中国同事说你看起来很累，你看起来很胖。是的，很明显，当你的家人或你真正的好朋友说这些话时，你知道这种说法更为常见，但你绝对不应该对要与之约会或感兴趣的人说这些话. 与其说那些话，不如什么都不说。什么都不说是最好的政策。对。我的意思是，如果他们看起来累或胖，而你发现那是不是你喜欢的，那么也许就不要再和他们约会了。你知道他们为什么这么说吗？我完全明白。那是因为我说你看起来很累，是不是我可以为你做点什么让你不那么累吗？你知道，通常这就像关心。是的，我明白这一点。然而，在他们疲倦的那一刻，你真的无能为力。他们只需要去小睡一下。这真的是一个毫无意义的声明，因为你无法帮助他们，只是在侮辱他们的外表。下次你见到他们时，他们可能不会感到疲倦。所以最好什么都不说。

1.Complain 抱怨

2.Common 常见

3.Policy 政策

4.Take a nap 小睡一下

5.Pointless 毫无意义

6.Insults 侮辱

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