Adult Child

153 - When Shame Becomes Our Identity: Toxic Shame & Scapegoat Abuse


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When shame becomes one's identity... this is what we call toxic shame.

Toxic shame is the deeply ingrained sense of be inherently flawed and unlovable and is the core wound of an adult children of alcoholic and dysfunctional families.

Key Takeaways:

  • Recognizing the difference between healthy shame and toxic shame
  • The internalization process that causes shame to go from being an emotion we experience to an identity
  • What happens when our true self goes into hiding (shameful acting out vs shameless acting in)
  • Scapegoat abuse and it's pervasive impact to the formation of self
  • How to heal the shame that binds you through the externalization process (first and second order change)

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