The Reconnection Club Podcast

17. Walking on Eggshells After Reconciliation


Listen Later

At last, your child is back in touch! And while it feels wonderful to be close again, you don’t want to say or do the wrong thing.

You instinctively know what the research has shown, which is that estrangements can and do happen over and over again within the same parent-child relationship. And every time your child becomes estranged, you don’t know if this will be the last time.

So you’re walking on eggshells, hyper-aware of your behavior and wondering if you’ll ever calm down about the whole thing.

You may also be dealing with some hurt feelings left over from when your child was rejecting you. And you have to figure out what to do with those feelings, and how not to let them out around your child, in case you accidentally push him away.

Which is why you can’t relax, even though technically you’ve reconciled. 

What you’re experiencing is normal. It’s part of what Tina refers to as the circle of change. It’s a journey from where you started to where eventually you’ll end up. And some parts of it are quite uncomfortable.

In this episode, you’ll learn about the circle of change, and how you’ll eventually get to a more relaxed state with your child if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Join our mailing list at reconnectionclub.com/mailing-list to receive our “Top 7 Things to Avoid When Trying to Reconnect with an Adult Child” checklist.

...more
View all episodesView all episodes
Download on the App Store

The Reconnection Club PodcastBy Tina Gilbertson

  • 4.6
  • 4.6
  • 4.6
  • 4.6
  • 4.6

4.6

175 ratings


More shows like The Reconnection Club Podcast

View all
Good Life Project by Jonathan Fields / Acast

Good Life Project

3,279 Listeners

Therapy Chat by Laura Reagan, LCSW-C

Therapy Chat

673 Listeners

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson by Rick Hanson, Ph.D., Forrest Hanson

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

2,404 Listeners

The SelfWork Podcast by Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD

The SelfWork Podcast

1,191 Listeners

Everything Happens with Kate Bowler by Everything Happens Studios

Everything Happens with Kate Bowler

5,002 Listeners

Unlocking Us with Brené Brown by Vox Media Podcast Network

Unlocking Us with Brené Brown

23,599 Listeners

Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch by iHeartPodcasts

Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch

2,322 Listeners

Adult Child by Andrea

Adult Child

1,781 Listeners

A Slight Change of Plans by Pushkin Industries

A Slight Change of Plans

1,881 Listeners

Waking Up to Narcissism by Tony Overbay LMFT

Waking Up to Narcissism

664 Listeners

The Estranged Heart by The Estranged Heart

The Estranged Heart

91 Listeners

The Estranged Mom Coach™ | Estrangement, Prodigals, Estranged Parent, Biblical Emotional Healing by Jenny Good | Christian Certified Family Estrangement Coach, Parental Estrangement Expert

The Estranged Mom Coach™ | Estrangement, Prodigals, Estranged Parent, Biblical Emotional Healing

199 Listeners

Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter by Dr. Les Carter

Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter

521 Listeners

The Crappy Childhood Fairy Podcast with Anna Runkle by Anna Runkle

The Crappy Childhood Fairy Podcast with Anna Runkle

309 Listeners

CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT by Calling Home

CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT

323 Listeners