I used to be the doctor on national television telling couples to schedule sex. I even wrote about it in my book. But I’ve learned so much since then. Not because scheduling sex is inherently wrong. But for high-functioning women like us, it becomes another setup. Another task. Another way to fail.

Scheduled intimacy only works when both partners truly want it. When desire is shared., but when it’s one-sided, it becomes a power play. Another unpaid job. One more thing we have to manage.

This is about more than sex. It’s about power. Emotional labor. Invisible dynamics that no one teaches us to name. The same super traits that make you successful are blocking your desire. The overfunctioning. The performance. The pressure to fix what was never yours to fix.

Sexless relationships aren’t about frequency. They’re about safety. Intimacy. Capacity. Most women I work with don’t need more structure. They need less. Less to do. Less pressure. More truth. More feeling. More pleasure.

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