On Attachment

#179: Why You Struggle With Self-Trust


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Self-trust is something we all want, but many of us struggle to build it. If you find yourself second-guessing your decisions, over-preparing for worst-case scenarios, or feeling like you can't rely on yourself, you're not alone. 

In this episode, we’re unpacking why self-trust is so challenging, especially for those with anxious attachment, and how to shift your focus to build a strong foundation of inner security.

What We Cover in This Episode:

  • Why anxiety craves control — and how this undermines self-trust
  • The inverse relationship between trust and control
  • How trying to prevent bad things from happening leads to self-blame
  • A powerful reframe: self-trust isn’t about making the "right" decision, but making decisions in alignment with your values
  • The biggest ways we unknowingly damage self-trust
  • Why building self-trust is essential for healing anxious attachment

Self-trust isn’t about getting everything right or ensuring a perfect outcome, but about showing up with integrity and knowing you have your own back. 

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