When your adult child goes no contact, you search for solutions. You hunt for ideas, inspiration, support and above all, answers. And the whole time, you feel awful.

Estrangement, in other words, is hard.

It's natural to gravitate towards quick and relatively easy solutions: Writing an apology letter. Sending gifts. Showing up unannounced. Sending one text after another, despite receiving no reply.

For parents, the real work of healing estrangement often has nothing to do with contact. It's long, slow, difficult and solitary work. But parents who take the harder path can earn greater rewards, sooner, as host Tina Gilbertson explains in this essential episode.

For more on how to repair your relationship with your estranged adult child(ren), read Tina's book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child.

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