Real World Peaceful Parenting

215: Why Your Child Gets Defensive—And How to Change It


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Have you ever caught your child lying, sneaking treats, or getting defensive over a simple question? You're not alone! In this episode, Lisa dives into why kids become defensive, how their nervous system reacts to perceived threats, and what parents can do to break the cycle of power struggles. Instead of creating distance with frustration and criticism, Lisa shares practical strategies to build trust, encourage honesty, and foster open communication—without losing your authority.

What You'll Learn:

  • Why kids become defensive and how their nervous system reacts under pressure.
  • How your emotional regulation as a parent sets the tone for honesty and connection.
  • Key phrases that help kids feel safe enough to open up.
  • The difference between reactive parenting vs. responding with curiosity.
  • How to address tough situations (lying, sneaking, arguing) without triggering more defensiveness.
  • A powerful mindset shift that will transform the way your kids respond to you.
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