Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

219: Perfectionism and Shame


Listen Later

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use?

Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornographyhttps://stopporn.info/ 

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

 

Episode show notes:

Perfectionism might look like high standards — but for many men, it’s actually fear in disguise.

In this episode, we talk about how the pressure to always “get it right” becomes one of the biggest hidden triggers for porn use.

You’ll learn why feelings of failure, shame, and “not being enough” create the emotional weight that drives the urge to escape through pornography — and how to break that cycle for good.

Instead of fighting perfectionism with more willpower or affirmations, you’ll discover how to pinpoint the real issue underneath it — whether it’s stress, disconnection, or a skill that just needs to be built.

This episode will help you:

  • Understand the root cause of pornography addiction linked to perfectionism and shame.

  • Learn how to overcome porn urges by removing the emotional pressure that fuels them.

  • Build a stronger sense of self-worth that’s not tied to performance or success.

  • See failure differently — not as proof you’re broken, but as feedback about your system that can be improved.

    If you’ve ever felt like you have to be perfect to feel worthy — or that one slip means you’ve ruined all your progress — this episode will help you breathe again.

    You’ll see how to find peace, rebuild confidence, and take your next step forward in porn addiction recovery with clarity and compassion.

    ...more
    View all episodesView all episodes
    Download on the App Store

    Couples Healing From Pornography AddictionBy Sam Tielemans, LMFT

    • 4.9
    • 4.9
    • 4.9
    • 4.9
    • 4.9

    4.9

    195 ratings


    More shows like Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

    View all
    Better Than Happy by Jody Moore

    Better Than Happy

    5,683 Listeners

    Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity by Brad and Morgan Robinson

    Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity

    746 Listeners

    Betrayal Trauma Recovery by Anne Blythe, M.Ed.

    Betrayal Trauma Recovery

    1,419 Listeners

    Pure Desire Podcast by Pure Desire Ministries

    Pure Desire Podcast

    735 Listeners

    Sex for Saints by Amanda Louder

    Sex for Saints

    423 Listeners

    Bare Marriage by Sheila Gregoire

    Bare Marriage

    1,231 Listeners

    Helping Couples Heal Podcast by Marnie Breecker

    Helping Couples Heal Podcast

    443 Listeners

    Conversations with Dr. Jennifer by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

    Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

    46 Listeners

    Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE by Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman

    Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE

    193 Listeners

    Therapy Brothers by Reclaimed Heart

    Therapy Brothers

    341 Listeners

    Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell by Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband

    Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

    232 Listeners

    Overcome Pornography for Good by Sara Brewer

    Overcome Pornography for Good

    710 Listeners

    The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast by Nick and Amy with The Ultimate Intimacy App

    The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

    168 Listeners

    Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS by Betrayal Recovery Radio

    Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS

    61 Listeners

    Unhooked: Breaking Porn Addiction Podcast by Jeremy Lipkowitz

    Unhooked: Breaking Porn Addiction Podcast

    88 Listeners