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Episode show notes:
Perfectionism might look like high standards — but for many men, it’s actually fear in disguise.
In this episode, we talk about how the pressure to always “get it right” becomes one of the biggest hidden triggers for porn use.
You’ll learn why feelings of failure, shame, and “not being enough” create the emotional weight that drives the urge to escape through pornography — and how to break that cycle for good.
Instead of fighting perfectionism with more willpower or affirmations, you’ll discover how to pinpoint the real issue underneath it — whether it’s stress, disconnection, or a skill that just needs to be built.
This episode will help you:
Understand the root cause of pornography addiction linked to perfectionism and shame.
Learn how to overcome porn urges by removing the emotional pressure that fuels them.
Build a stronger sense of self-worth that’s not tied to performance or success.
See failure differently — not as proof you’re broken, but as feedback about your system that can be improved.
If you’ve ever felt like you have to be perfect to feel worthy — or that one slip means you’ve ruined all your progress — this episode will help you breathe again.
By Sam Tielemans, LMFT4.9
195195 ratings
Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use?
Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/
Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?
Email me here:
Episode show notes:
Perfectionism might look like high standards — but for many men, it’s actually fear in disguise.
In this episode, we talk about how the pressure to always “get it right” becomes one of the biggest hidden triggers for porn use.
You’ll learn why feelings of failure, shame, and “not being enough” create the emotional weight that drives the urge to escape through pornography — and how to break that cycle for good.
Instead of fighting perfectionism with more willpower or affirmations, you’ll discover how to pinpoint the real issue underneath it — whether it’s stress, disconnection, or a skill that just needs to be built.
This episode will help you:
Understand the root cause of pornography addiction linked to perfectionism and shame.
Learn how to overcome porn urges by removing the emotional pressure that fuels them.
Build a stronger sense of self-worth that’s not tied to performance or success.
See failure differently — not as proof you’re broken, but as feedback about your system that can be improved.
If you’ve ever felt like you have to be perfect to feel worthy — or that one slip means you’ve ruined all your progress — this episode will help you breathe again.

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