Have you ever told your child to “calm down” only to watch their meltdown intensify? In this episode, Lisa shares why the phrase “calm down” often backfires—and what your kids really need instead. Learn how to replace shutdown phrases with words that build connection, safety, and emotional intelligence. Plus, discover simple scripts you can use in everyday moments to support your child through big feelings—without yelling or dismissing. What You'll Learn:<ul><li>Why “calm down” shuts connection down—and what your child hears instead</li><li>What’s happening in the brain during a meltdown (and why logic doesn’t land)</li><li>Five powerful phrases to say instead of “calm down”</li><li>How your calm presence helps your child’s brain come back online</li><li>How to make connection—not correction—your first move</li><li>A simple weekly practice to start replacing default reactions with peaceful responses</li></ul>

Have you ever told your child to “calm down” only to watch their meltdown intensify? In this episode, Lisa shares why the phrase “calm down” often backfires—and what your kids really need instead. Learn how to replace shutdown phrases with words that build connection, safety, and emotional intelligence. Plus, discover simple scripts you can use in everyday moments to support your child through big feelings—without yelling or dismissing. What You'll Learn:Why “calm down” shuts connection down—and what your child hears insteadWhat’s happening in the brain during a meltdown (and why logic doesn’t land)Five powerful phrases to say instead of “calm down”How your calm presence helps your child’s brain come back onlineHow to make connection—not correction—your first moveA simple weekly practice to start replacing default reactions with peaceful responses

Have you ever told your child to “calm down” only to watch their meltdown intensify? In this episode, Lisa shares why the phrase “calm down” often backfires—and what your kids really need instead. Learn how to replace shutdown phrases with words that build connection, safety, and emotional intelligence. Plus, discover simple scripts you can use in everyday moments to support your child through big feelings—without yelling or dismissing. What You'll Learn:<ul><li>Why “calm down” shuts connection down—and what your child hears instead</li><li>What’s happening in the brain during a meltdown (and why logic doesn’t land)</li><li>Five powerful phrases to say instead of “calm down”</li><li>How your calm presence helps your child’s brain come back online</li><li>How to make connection—not correction—your first move</li><li>A simple weekly practice to start replacing default reactions with peaceful responses</li></ul>

228: Why “Calm Down” Doesn’t Work — And What to Say Instead

Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit  https://thepeacefulparent.com/

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Are you tired of yelling at your kids? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t listen or respect you? Do you feel like the worst parent EVER? You’re not alone, there is hope!Join Lisa Smith -- Mom, Master Certified Parent Coach, Author and Speaker -- as she helps turn frustrated parents -- who regularly default to yelling, threatening and punishing -- into peaceful leaders within their households. As a former dominant parent, she has found the path to Peaceful Parenting and is dedicated to helping other parents find their way too! But be warned, this is not a “foo-foo” podcast that’s going to tell you to let your kids do whatever they want without any rules or limitations. Each week Lisa will share the exact methods and step-by-step strategies she used to transform from an angry, controlling mom who was constantly upset with her son and husband, into a calm, confident, and connected leader in her home.To connect with Lisa visit https://thepeacefulparent.com/

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