Let's Talk About Love, Sex & Infidelity

#244 | Why Attachment Styles Impact Your Sexual Desire


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In this episode, Todd Creager shares insights you probably won't find in most relationship books or articles - discoveries he's made from three decades of working with couples about how childhood attachment patterns can directly impact sexual desire in adults.

This isn't typical relationship advice. These are real patterns Todd has observed in his practice that help explain why some people struggle with sexual desire, especially after commitment.

In this episode, you'll learn:

  • Why men with overly enmeshed relationships with their mothers often lose sexual desire once they commit to a partner
  • How a woman's relationship with her father can create trust barriers that shut down sexual feelings
  • A fascinating case study from Todd's training days - how changing something as simple as family dinner seating arrangements helped restore a couple's sex life
  • Practical ways to set healthy boundaries with parents (even if they've passed away)
  • Why understanding these patterns is often the first step toward reclaiming desire

Todd shares a compelling example from his practice that perfectly illustrates how addressing unhealthy family dynamics can bring back sexual desire. It happened during his specialized training at UCLA, and he remembers it clearly because it was such a powerful demonstration of how our past shapes our present intimacy.

Whether you're dealing with low sexual desire yourself, you're the partner of someone who is, or you're simply curious about the deeper connections between childhood and adult sexuality, this episode offers insights that could be genuinely helpful.

Todd emphasizes that every situation is different, and what he's sharing are patterns he's observed - not one-size-fits-all solutions. Professional help can be crucial when working through these complex attachment patterns.

Listen as Todd explores these sensitive topics with the understanding that healing is possible, and you deserve a relationship filled with trust, safety, and genuine intimacy.

Todd Creager is making the world safe for love one relationship at a time

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Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com


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