In today's deeply personal episode, I dive into the complex connection between childhood trauma and intimacy struggles. As both a couples therapist and trauma specialist, I've seen firsthand how our early experiences shape our ability to form deep, meaningful connections. 

I share my own journey of overcoming defensive patterns in my marriage and explain how childhood experiences influence our capacity for true intimacy.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why seemingly small childhood experiences can create significant barriers to intimacy - even without major trauma

• How to recognize and appreciate the protective parts of yourself that may be blocking genuine connection

• The practical steps to move beyond your protective patterns and create deeper intimacy with your partner

• Real-life examples from my practice showing how couples can break free from trauma-based relationship cycles

Whether you struggle with trust, defensive reactions, or difficulty being vulnerable, this episode offers hope and practical guidance. I explain why everyone has the capacity for true intimacy, no matter their past, and share concrete ways to start healing those old wounds. Join me as we explore how to create the deep, authentic relationships we all deserve.

Ready to make your relationship safer and more intimate? Listen now to learn how to recognize and transform the patterns holding you back from the connection you desire. 

Together, we're making the world safe for love.

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Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship counseling to couples throughout Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com  

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In this powerful episode, I dive deep into how couples can experience post-traumatic growth after infidelity - yes, you read that right! 

While infidelity often leads to PTSD, I've witnessed countless couples in my practice who've not only healed but emerged stronger through this challenging journey. 

I'll share my expertise on how to transform trauma into an opportunity for profound relationship growth and renewal.

Key takeaways from this episode:

• Discover the 5 essential questions that help determine if you're ready to take your relationship to the next level after infidelity
• Learn practical techniques for healthy emotional regulation as a couple, including my proven "catch and throw" exercise for better communication
• Understand how to maintain growth while facing challenges, and why romance plays a crucial role in the healing process
• Get actionable steps to create a new, stronger vision for your relationship, even with the scars of infidelity

Whether you're currently healing from infidelity or working with couples who are, this episode offers hope and practical guidance for turning crisis into opportunity. As I always say, you can have a beautiful relationship despite the scars - sometimes even because of them. Join me as we explore how to make real, lasting change from the inside out.

Tune in now to learn how to transform your relationship's deepest wounds into catalysts for growth and deeper connection. Together, we're making the world safe for love.

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Todd is an infidelity expert with a 90% success rate and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship counseling to couples online and throughout Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

• You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com

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• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity

Hi everyone, Todd Creager here. In today's powerful episode, I dive deep into one of the most challenging aspects of healing after infidelity: managing triggers as a couple.

Drawing from my years of experience working with couples, I answer the five most crucial questions about triggers that both betrayed and betraying partners frequently ask.

In this episode, you'll discover:

- Why triggers aren't necessarily a problem, but rather opportunities to develop emotional muscle and deepen your connection

- Practical strategies to support your partner during triggered moments, including my powerful concept of "attunement"

- How to prevent triggers from controlling your relationship while maintaining sensitivity and understanding

What makes this episode special is that I share real-world examples from my practice, including a recent success story where a couple transformed a triggering moment into an opportunity for deeper connection. 

You'll learn the difference between regular emotions and trauma-based triggers, and get actionable steps for both partners to handle these challenging moments with grace and maturity.

Whether you're the betrayed or betraying partner, this episode will give you the tools and understanding needed to navigate triggers effectively and strengthen your relationship. Join me as we make the world safe for love, one relationship at a time.

Listen now to transform how you handle triggers in your relationship's healing journey.

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Todd is an infidelity expert with a 90% success rate and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship counseling to couples online and throughout Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

• You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com

HELPFUL LINKS:

• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity

Hi everyone, this is Todd Creager. In today's episode, I dive deep into answering your most pressing questions about rebuilding emotional connection after infidelity. Having worked with countless couples navigating the aftermath of betrayal, I know how challenging this journey can be. I'll share practical insights on developing emotional muscle, mastering attunement, and embracing vulnerability to help heal your relationship.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• How to develop real emotional muscle by exploring tension rather than avoiding it, allowing you to stay present with your partner even during difficult conversations
• The power of true attunement (my favorite concept!) and why it's so different from just listening - learn how to make your partner feel truly heard and understood
• Practical strategies for handling setbacks and recognizing genuine progress in your relationship's healing journey

Whether you're the person who was betrayed or the one who strayed, this episode offers valuable guidance for both partners wanting to rebuild trust and deepen their connection. 

I share real examples and metaphors to help you understand these concepts in action, including a personal story about how vulnerability can be wonderfully contagious.

Join me as we explore these essential tools for healing after infidelity. Together, we can make the world safe for love.

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Todd is an infidelity expert with a 90% success rate and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship counseling to couples online and throughout Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

• You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com

HELPFUL LINKS:

• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity

Hi there! I'm Todd Creager, and in this powerful episode of Let’s Talk About Love, Sex and Infidelity Podcast, I address one of the most challenging aspects of healing from infidelity - how to take responsibility without drowning in shame. 

If you're someone who has betrayed your partner and is working to rebuild trust and heal your relationship, this episode is especially for you.

I dive deep into answering the five most common questions I receive from people who have been unfaithful and are genuinely trying to make things right:

• Learn the crucial difference between showing genuine remorse and getting lost in self-destructive shame
• Discover practical strategies for staying present with your partner's pain without becoming overwhelmed by your own emotions
• Understand how to connect with and heal the wounded parts of yourself that contributed to the betrayal, while still taking full responsibility for your actions
• Get specific guidance on how to actually support your partner's healing process, rather than just wishing the pain would go away

Whether you're in the early stages of discovery or further along in your healing journey, this episode provides compassionate, practical guidance for moving forward with intention and maturity. I share real examples from my clinical practice and offer concrete tools you can start using today to rebuild trust and connection.

Join me as we explore how to navigate this challenging territory with wisdom, self-compassion, and a genuine commitment to growth and healing. Together, we can make the world safer for love.

Listen now to begin your journey toward genuine healing and transformation.

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Todd is an infidelity expert with a 90% success rate and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship counseling to couples online and throughout Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

• You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com

HELPFUL LINKS:

• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity

In today's powerful episode of Let's Talk about Love, Sex and Infidelity, Expert Todd Creager is diving deep into the heart-wrenching experience of healing after infidelity. If you've ever felt lost, hurt, and overwhelmed after discovering your partner's betrayal, this episode is your lifeline.

I'll be answering the top five questions I hear from clients struggling to navigate the complex emotional landscape of healing after betrayal. This isn't just another podcast - it's a compassionate guide to reclaiming your emotional well-being.

Key Insights You'll Discover:

- Learn how to balance your healing journey while potentially supporting your partner

- Understand the critical difference between feeling your emotions and getting stuck in them

- Discover powerful techniques to nurture and love your wounded inner child

- Get practical advice on when and how to share your pain with others

- Gain clarity on whether you need professional support during this challenging time

Whether you're trying to rebuild your relationship or find your path forward, this episode offers a compassionate, real-world approach to healing. I'll share personal insights, therapeutic strategies, and heartfelt guidance to help you move from pain to empowerment.

Don't suffer in silence. Tune in and start your healing journey today. Remember, you're stronger than you think, and recovery is possible.

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Todd is an infidelity expert with a 90% success rate and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship counseling to couples online and throughout Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

• You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com

HELPFUL LINKS:

• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity

In today's special episode of the Let's Talk About Love Sex and Infidelity Podcast, I am sharing a special episode.

I want to talk  about something really important - celebrating yourself, especially during the holidays when things might not feel so festive.

Let's be real: the holidays aren't always magical for everyone. Maybe you've experienced tough family memories, recent heartbreaks, or just feel disconnected from the usual cheer. This episode is for you.

Why you absolutely need to listen:

- Discover how to shine your inner light, even when circumstances feel dark

- Learn powerful strategies to celebrate yourself, regardless of your current situation

- Understand why you are the "sun" of your own life, not just a reflection of others' happiness

- Gain practical tips to build emotional resilience during challenging times

- Explore how to transform holiday disappointment into personal empowerment

I'm sharing a deeply personal perspective on finding your worth from the inside out. Whether you're alone, struggling, or just feeling uncertain, this episode will remind you that you are inherently lovable, worthy, and capable of creating your own joy.

Don't miss this transformative conversation about reclaiming your power and celebrating your incredible self. Your moment is now - tune in and let's make your inner light shine bright!

Making the world safe for love,

Todd

Hey there! I'm Todd Creager, and in this eye-opening episode, I'm diving deep into the fascinating world of attachment styles and how your childhood experiences might be secretly influencing your relationship patterns - including the potential for infidelity.

Ever wondered why you struggle with intimacy or keep finding yourself in the same relationship challenges? Get ready for some serious insights! In this episode, 

I'll break down:

• How childhood attachment experiences shape your adult relationship dynamics

• The three critical attachment styles and their impact on relationship health

• Why some people are more prone to cheating based on early life experiences

• Practical strategies to recognize and heal attachment wounds

• The incredible possibility of transforming your attachment style for healthier relationships

If you've ever felt stuck in destructive relationship patterns or want to understand the deep-rooted reasons behind relationship challenges, this episode is your roadmap to healing and connection. I'm pulling back the curtain on how our earliest experiences create relationship blueprints that can either sabotage or support our love lives.

Don't miss this chance to unlock the secrets of your relationship patterns. Tune in now and start your journey to more authentic, fulfilling connections!

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Todd is an infidelity expert with a 90% success rate and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship counseling to couples online and throughout Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

• You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com

HELPFUL LINKS:

• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity

Welcome, everyone! In this episode of "Let's Talk About Love, Sex, and Infidelity," I'm diving deep into a topic that's close to my heart: how to create safe communication after infidelity. 

As someone who's worked with countless couples navigating this challenging terrain, I've gathered some powerful insights to share with you.

Here's what you can expect from this episode:

• Learn practical techniques to handle overwhelming emotions during difficult conversations

• Discover how to set realistic expectations for healing and avoid rushing back to "normal"

• Gain insights on balancing both partners' needs for expression and understanding

• Master the art of expressing hurt without pushing your partner away

• Understand how to deal with defensiveness and create a truly safe space for communication

Whether you're healing from infidelity or simply want to strengthen your relationship's communication, this episode is packed with valuable strategies. I'll guide you through the process of developing what I call "emotional muscle" – the ability to stay present and connected even when things get tough.

Join me as we explore the path to creating a new, stronger relationship foundation. 

Remember, it's not about getting back to normal – it's about building something even better. Tune in now and let's make the world safer for love, together.

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Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd is an infidelity expert with a 90% success rate and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship counseling to couples online and throughout Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

• You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com

HELPFUL LINKS:

• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity 

Hey there, it's Todd Creager, and I'm excited to dive into a topic that's more relevant than ever in our modern world: Is cheating different in the digital age? In this episode of "Let's Talk About Love, Sex, and Infidelity," we're going to explore how technology has changed the landscape of relationships and fidelity.

Here's what you can expect from this eye-opening discussion:

• Discover the new concept of "micro-cheating" and how it's blurring the lines of infidelity

• Learn how digital communication is creating new challenges for trust and transparency in relationships

• Understand the emotional impact of digital betrayals and why they can be just as painful as physical affairs

• Explore strategies for preventing digital infidelity and strengthening your relationship in the age of technology

As someone who's been working in this field for decades, I've seen firsthand how the digital age has transformed the way we navigate love and commitment.
 
Whether you're in a relationship, single, or just curious about human behavior, this episode will give you valuable insights into the complexities of modern romance.

So join me as we unpack this important topic and learn how to make our relationships stronger, more honest, and more resilient in the face of digital temptations. 

Don't miss out on this crucial conversation – tune in now!

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Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd is an infidelity expert with a 90% success rate and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship counseling to couples online and throughout Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.

• You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com

HELPFUL LINKS:

• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity