Here's a podcast episode description optimized for podcast platforms and Todd's brand voice:

Episode Title: How to Stop Bickering: The Real Problem Isn't Communication

Short Description (for podcast apps that limit characters): Constant bickering isn't a communication problem—it's a nervous system problem. After 20+ years working with couples, I share why "just communicate better" is terrible advice and what actually breaks the cycle.

Full Description:

You know that moment when you realize you've had the same argument for the third time this week? Not even about anything important—just that familiar dance where one person brings something up, the other gets defensive, and within minutes you're both exhausted and further apart than when you started.

Here's what nobody tells you: more talking won't fix it. Better communication techniques won't fix it. Because when you're already in reactive mode, your brain literally can't access the parts responsible for empathy and perspective-taking.

In this episode, I share the story of Rick and Diane—a couple married 25 years who came to me stuck in what I call the "bicker-escalate-disconnect" loop. They didn't save their marriage by learning to communicate better. They saved it by learning to slow down their nervous systems first.

In this episode:

• Why your brain can't process your partner's perspective when you're defensive (it's neurological, not a character flaw)
• The speed problem that keeps couples stuck in the same arguments
• What's actually happening underneath the bickering (spoiler: it's not about the dishes)
• Why disconnection feels easier—and why that's the biggest trap
• The one skill that actually breaks the cycle (and it's not what you think)
• How Rick and Diane reconnected without needing to talk more, solve more, or explain more

If you're exhausted from the same fights and wondering if there's a way out, this episode will show you where to actually start. Hint: it's not with better words—it's with a calmer nervous system.

Resources mentioned: 

📥 FREE RESOURCE: 3 Ways to Reconnect Without Talking More
Get my free guide here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/12nB56OixUXF1AdDhZEu3oowYrcoA5puCpG0gbUdn4Eg/template/preview

If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who could benefit and leave a review. Your support helps us reach more couples who are ready to transform their lives.

Check out my complete program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" for more in-depth guidance: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclass

Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT

Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.

You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: https://toddcreager.com

HELPFUL LINKS:

• Get your FREE copy of Healing Infidelity From The Inside Out https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/heal-infidelity
• Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
• 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM
...