Have you read or heard of the book Attached? I'm chatting with Dr. Amir Levine, psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and author of Secure and co-author of Attached, a book that has indefinitely changed my life. In this episode, we break down exactly how to attract and spot a securely attached person in early dating, and how to build more security in your life (whether you're in a relationship or not). At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who flew across the country for a guy who then changed his mind.

You'll learn...

• All about Dr. Levine's CARP and SIMI frameworks
• Why CARP should be your new non-negotiable dating standard
• How to do a "CARP intervention" early without it feeling like a big emotional conversation
• Why a secure relationship is supposed to feel boring
• The strategy for distancing yourself from someone who isn't meeting your standards
• Why most of us already have secure people in our lives and keep ignoring them
• How your attachment style can be totally different with different people (yes, even your pet)

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Secure by Dr. Amir Levine

Dr. Levine's website: amirlevinemd.com

Attachment Quiz

Dr. Levine's Masterclass: The Science Of Connection

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