If you've spent any time scrolling social media, you've likely come across this aphorism: "Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." This is a popular adage in modern spirituality, the notion that bad things are going to happen to you, but you do have agency over your response. While this statement is valid, there is a gaping chasm between reading a meme and actually feeling the absence of grief. Commusings is our format where we take a moment to think deeply on the topics of spirituality, philosophy, and culture. For more musings and quotes, connect with us on Instagram at @onecommune or @jeffkrasno or sign up for the Commusings newsletter at onecommune.com.