Securely Attached

281. Q&A: My high-schooler is struggling with perfectionism and academic pressures, how can I help him feel less stressed?


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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...

 

- Even if we aren’t adding more pressure onto our kids, the world often pushes external achievements on them - how can parents push back against this?

 

- Why trying to problem-solve with your child may seem like it’s supporting them, but could actually be perpetuating their anxiety.

 

- The one pillar you can use as a parent to guide all your interactions with your child that can help to defuse the pressure they feel, rather than inadvertently adding to it.

 

- Saying grades don’t matter is like saying, “throw your sense of control out the window.” What to say instead.

 

- Our society glorifies perfectionism, but in reality, kids who engage in highly perfectionist tendencies tend to have higher anxiety and internalize their stress, which can lead to missed signs that they need support. What are the signs they are crossing a concerning threshold of perfectionism?

 

- We describe a helpful thought exercise you can try with your child today.

 

 

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👉🏻 Click here to lean more about support options at Upshur Bren Psychology Group and to schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to learn more about the available resources for your unique needs.

 

 

ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

 

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about the hidden dangers of an achievement centric approach with Jennifer Breheny Wallace

 

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about learning style myths with Dr. Dan Willingham

 

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping your child cope with anxiety with Dr. Terri Bacow

 

 

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