The Addicted Mind Podcast

311: Fostering Secure Attachments with Dr. Mary Crocker Cook


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Dr. Mary Crocker Cook graces our latest episode of the Addicted Mind Podcast, bringing her 35 years of expertise in therapy and addiction counseling. We tackle the intricate ties between attachment, addiction, and relationship patterns, particularly spotlighting the challenges faced by accomplished women who find themselves in mismatched partnerships. Dr. Cook sheds light on her pioneering approach of attachment-infused addiction treatment, helping us understand how early attachment disruptions shape decision-making and relational dynamics with profound emotional and financial consequences.


Our conversation takes a deep dive into attachment styles, focusing on the anxious and avoidant spectrums. We uncover how fear of disconnection can lead individuals to become overly anxious or to suppress their needs, causing relational dysfunction. Dr. Cook shares insights on how these behaviors are often rooted in a lack of trust and how addiction can serve as an escape from unmet emotional needs. We explore the critical role of recovery and supportive relationships in fostering secure attachments and breaking unhealthy cycles.


Navigating challenging relationships requires a balance of compassion and self-protection, and Dr. Cook offers practical advice for women trapped in unhealthy dynamics. By understanding attachment wounds and prioritizing harm reduction, financial independence, and boundary-setting, individuals can start making informed decisions toward better well-being. 


In this episode, you will hear:

  • Exploring the connection between attachment styles, addiction, and relationship patterns.
  • Challenges faced by accomplished women in mismatched relationships due to early attachment disruptions.
  • The role of anxious and avoidant attachment styles in creating relational dysfunction.
  • Understanding addiction as an escape from unmet emotional needs and the importance of recovery.
  • Practical advice for women in unhealthy relationships, focusing on self-care and financial independence.
  • Navigating challenging relationships with compassion, self-protection, and setting boundaries.
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