March 20, 2025

33: Identifying Your 2 Unmet Needs: The Secret to Stop Self-Sabotage (PART 02)

29 minutes

FREE Discover YOUR top 2 UNMET Relationship Needs (to stop sabotage)

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Discover Why You're Secretly Sabotaging Your Relationships

Are you always in your head about your relationship? Constantly checking their texts or feeling anxious when they don't reply right away? You're not alone!

This episode reveals how your unmet relationship needs are secretly causing your relationship anxiety and self-sabotage. You'll discover why you might be overthinking texts, feeling disconnected, or constantly seeking reassurance from your partner. I'll guide you through identifying your top 2-3 core needs using Tony Robbins' framework and show you exactly which needs are most common for anxious attachers.

By the end, you'll understand how childhood wounds created your current relationship patterns and why you might be unconsciously outsourcing your needs to your partner. Plus, you'll learn practical ways to fulfill these needs yourself instead of falling into the trap of neediness, overgiving, or relationship anxiety. No more running on autopilot - it's time to take control of your relationship needs and stop the self-sabotage cycle for good!

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🎧 WHAT WE'RE COVERING:

00:00 Understanding Unmet Needs in Relationships

02:01 Signs You're Outsourcing Your Needs to Your Partner

03:43 How Childhood Wounds Create Unmet Needs in Adulthood

05:59 The 6 Core Needs (Discover YOURS)

07:51 CORE NEED 01: Certainty

08:51 CORE NEED 02: Variety

10:11 CORE NEED 03: Significance

11:10 CORE NEED 04: Connection + Love

12:01 CORE NEED 05: Growth

14:26 CORE NEED 06: Contribution

15:26 The Top 3 Unmet Core Needs for an Anxious Attachment Style

18:46 How Unmet Needs Drive Self-Sabotage

20:08 If Your Biggest Need is CERTAINTY...

22:44 If Your Biggest Need is CONNECTION...

23:39 If Your Biggest Need is SIGNIFICANCE...

25:52 How to Fulfil your needs

26:44 Your SHORT CUT to identify YOUR top 2 UNMET core needs

27:56 Quick Summary of your UNMET core Needs

This is Part 2 of my relationship needs series! In Part 1, we already debunked the myth that you're "too needy" and learned how to identify healthy vs unhealthy needs.

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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