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Why do so many men feel pressure to be strong, silent or always in control — even when it’s hurting them inside?

In this courageous episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the emotional “masks” many men wear to survive societal expectations — and how those masks can quietly feed disconnection, frustration, and unchecked anger.

With thoughtful insight from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, this conversation offers a path toward healthier masculinity, deeper relationships, and the kind of strength that comes from taking the mask off.

Key Takeaways:

Emotional masks start as protection — but can become a prison: Roles like the provider, protector or alpha male may help men cope, but when worn constantly, they block real connection and emotional growth.

Anger is often the “acceptable” emotion — but it’s not the only one: Many men struggle to express fear, sadness, or vulnerability. Reclaiming these emotions isn’t weakness — it’s how real healing and closeness begin.

Letting go of old roles opens the door to authenticity: When you stop performing and start showing up as yourself, you create space for real conversations, stronger relationships, and healthier responses to conflict.

You don’t have to do it alone: Whether through friendship, therapy or support programs, finding people you can open up to is one of the most transformative steps a man can take.

Healthy masculinity means emotional awareness, not emotional avoidance: True strength isn’t about hiding pain — it’s about having the courage to face it, express it, and grow from it.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System