Let’s stop pretending this is just a problem for soldiers and politicians.

The “human shields excuse” isn’t just some abstract wartime tactic—it’s the same twisted reasoning people use every day to justify hurting others, dodging accountability, or compromising their integrity. 

It’s what lets you blow up a relationship and blame the other person for making you do it. It’s how you rationalize crossing a line—then sleep at night because technically, it wasn’t your fault.

In war, this excuse gets innocent people killed.

In your life, it’s killing your peace of mind, your self-respect, your trust in yourself.

This might sound extreme. But if your success feels empty, if your relationships keep breaking down, if you’re stuck in burnout with no idea why—you’re probably making this excuse. Quietly. Repeatedly. And convincing yourself it’s justified.

This episode exposes this lie for what it is, and more importantly—how to stop living it. You’ll discover the true cost of the “human shields excuse,” the subtle ways this shows up in your relationships and personal lives, and how to stop committing this fatal error, so you don’t live the rest of your life wondering why your success feels so hollow. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why having a logical justification for blaming another person is a subtle trap that increases your suffering (and how to eliminate mental anguish without blaming others) (3:17) 
• How offloading responsibility from your shoulders is the same excuse war criminals use to justify killing women and kids (15:31) 
• The tragic result of spinning “good guy” stories in your head until you erode your self-trust and confidence completely (16:20) 
• Why short-term wins that hijack your moral compass cost you far more in the long-term - financially and emotionally (19:53) 
• A simple mindset shift that makes you look forward to taking responsibility (especially when it’s hard) (23:32) 

David Tian’s list of recommended readings can be found here: https://davidtianphd.com/recommended-readings/

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