"I think she blames me for my divorce." If you feel this might be a motivating factor in your adult child's estrangement, you'll want to listen to this episode. 

It's rarely the divorce itself that's keeping adult children up at night. That's in the past. They lived through the immediate upheaval, and their lives are now on a different track. It's not as though your child wants you to get back together with your ex so they can live with both of you again…

So is it even true that the divorce is a factor in your child's estrangement?

If it is, it's probably not the breakup of your marriage that's causing your child pain. Now that you've come through the actual divorce, any lingering pain your child is experiencing can be addressed in the present, where it's happening.