Many leaders are driven by an insidious fear that tells them their sense of self-worth depends on their ability to protect their mask. But your mask is just an outdated story your subconscious created, and protecting this mask can only drive a wedge between you and your spouse, your kids, and your team. 

This is why it feels like you’re constantly at war. You are. Feedback morphs into betrayal. Correction morphs into humiliation. Making a mistake makes you feel like you’re being erased. 

This is not a good way to live - and it’s an even worse way to lead. It leaves nothing but destruction and turmoil in your wake. 

Worst part?

If you’re driven by fear, it’s not an easy fix. But it is possible. 

In today’s show, you’ll discover sneaky ways you’re letting your fear control you, understand the real world consequences that follow by continuing to live in fear, and learn the tough way to break out of fear’s grip before it shatters everything you love about your life. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• The “Weaponizing Self-Defense” trap that leaders fall into that burns out their team, damages their relationships, and subdues them into isolation (0:52) 
• Why you always feel like you’re at war in your personal and professional life (and the hard, yet effective way to overcome this feeling) (4:10) 
• How fear makes you see your shortcomings in everyone except yourself (5:26) 
• This sentence is the most toxic phrase a parent can speak (worst part? it masquerades as self-defense, but it’s actually deflection) (7:48) 
• Why shame turns into contempt for the people you love most (and how to stop it before it cripples your marriage) (9:16)
• How your desire to control the myth your subconscious mind created causes you to lash out at your spouse, explode on your team, and burden your children with your emotional baggage (11:29) 

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