February 14, 2025

#47: Feeling Lost? 6 Practical Tools To Discover What You Really Want

14 minutes

So, you’ve hit a new phase in life—kids don’t need you as much, work feels like a never-ending rerun, and suddenly, you’re left with space. But instead of feeling free, you’re stuck wondering, "What the hell do I actually want?" Don’t worry, Hilary is here to drag you out of the “what now?” spiral and help you find your spark again.

In this episode, Hilary tackles that “I don’t even know what I want” dilemma with practical tools and a hefty dose of real talk. If you’ve been so busy playing all the roles—mom, career badass, caretaker—that you’ve forgotten who you are outside of them, this one’s for you.

Episode Highlights:

Jealousy isn’t a vibe killer; it’s a clue. Start paying attention to what makes you envious—it’s pointing you toward your desires.

You don’t have to overhaul your life in one go. Experiment, try stuff, and ditch what doesn’t fit (looking at you, Airstream).

Forget practicality for a second—what would you do if you had no limits?

Episode Breakdown:

[00:00] Finding What You Truly Want

[03:11] Exercise 1: Become a Master Observer of Yourself

[05:17] Exercise 2: Use Jealousy and Envy as Clues

[06:00] Exercise 3: The Magic Wand Question

[07:14] Exercise 4: Experiment Without Commitment

[08:27] Exercise 5: The Life Zone Exercise

[09:31] Exercise 6: Focus on Your Feelings

[10:55] Honoring Your Feelings in Daily Life

[12:10] Self-Satisfied Program and Conclusion

Ready to put yourself back at the top of your priority list? Check out Hilary’s Self-Satisfied Program: https://hilarysilver.com/shop/ for guided exercises (like the life zone!) and actionable steps to reclaim your time and energy.

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