October 15, 2025

5 Ways An Avoidant Secretly Tests You When They Want You in Their Life

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Dismissive Avoidants rarely say what they actually feel — instead, they test it. When they want you in their life, they won’t move closer right away…they’ll quietly test how safe you are first.

In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 hidden ways Dismissive Avoidants test emotional trust — and how to respond without losing your self-respect or over-giving in the process. You’ll learn how these subtle “trust tests” show up in relationships, what they’re really looking for underneath, and how to handle each moment with confidence and clarity.

You’ll learn:

✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants pull away after closeness (and what they’re observing)

✅ How they test emotional safety through small vulnerabilities

✅ The neuroscience behind avoidance and emotional connection

✅ What delayed commitment really means for them

✅ How to respond when they need “space” — without losing yourself

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 – Intro

00:46 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Withdraw or Retreat After Moments of Closeness

02:29 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Will Test the Safety of Being Vulnerable

03:01 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants

04:38 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo

05:43 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Test to See if You Accept What They Judge Themselves for

07:25 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Will Often Delay Commitment

09:02 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Often Test How You Will Handle Their Boundaries

11:00 – Conclusion

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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If you’ve ever felt confused by a Dismissive Avoidant’s mixed signals, this will help you decode their behavior and build healthier emotional boundaries in your relationships.

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