In pickup artist culture, men see women's natural defenses as tests and shields. Pass these "shit tests" and break through her "bitch shields," and you win her love and affection.

But women aren't sitting around scheming elaborate tests or plotting shields. They're responding to lived experiences, not imagined battle plans. That's why these pickup artist tricks, while they can work in the short-term, never result in lasting love and connection.

They're based on lies, drenched in sexual shame, and actively work against your goals of lasting connection.

The solution is much harder - it means reframing her defenses as your projections. It means taking ownership of how shame makes you react. And it's about seeing her defenses as invitations for patience, curiosity, and compassion.

This path is much harder. But it's the only path towards real connection.

In today's show, you'll discover why pickup artist culture is consumed with shame, how to reframe her defenses as invitations, and how to choose a different, more effective response that's not based in your neediness.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• How labeling a woman's action as "tests" or "shields" exposes your insecurity and fear (and how to conquer these feelings that deprive you of connection) (3:50)
• Why following pickup artist advice, while it might get you dates, will never forge a strong and healthy long-term relationship (5:31)
• The "Psychoanalytic Lens" secret that allows you to strip away your neediness when she pulls back or acts distant (12:42)
• How to build your emotional muscles and prevent her defensive parts from triggering you (13:15)
• Why "seeing the shame on both sides" allows men and women to connect with and understand each other on a deeper level (19:14)
• The "Battle Within" mindset shift you must make if you want a long and fulfilling relationship (20:33)

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