On Attachment

#64: The Role of Criticism in Anxious-Avoidant Dynamics


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Today's episode is all about the role of criticism in anxious-avoidant dynamics. Both anxious and avoidant people have been known to deploy criticism as a strategy to manage fears and self-protect in relationships - but this will often look different (and be motivated by different drives) on each side.  One thing's for sure: no matter how it shows up, criticism is really harmful to relationships - so if this is something you struggle with, you've come to the right place. 

We'll cover:

  • how anxiously attached people use criticism as a protest behaviour 
  • criticism as a way to convey our hurt
  • how avoidant people use criticism to sow seeds of doubt and create distance
  • how to identify the needs underlying our criticism so we can communicate in a healthier way

Highlighted Links

  • Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
  • Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

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