Most parents feel their estranged adult children's pain. Part of their own anguish is the knowledge that their child isn't happy. And there's a saying: "You're only as happy as your unhappiest child." But when an adult child treats you with rudeness or anger, it's easy to lose that compassion for them. Their behavior might trigger defensiveness or anger in you. And those will replace your softer feelings. Once your own feelings turn angry and defensive, your ability to repair your relationship is compromised. That's why Tina shares some thoughts to help you get your compassion back. In this episode, Tina offers a few ways to look at your child and see a frustrated, angry, de-skilled individual who's not operating at their best -- rather than a mean bully you want to run from. If you can find your way back to compassion for both your child and yourself, you can get back on the reconnection track.