As the shaman I work with says, the most difficult journey for most people to make is the 17 inches from their head to their heart.

Why?

When you're living from a level of low-grade anger or fear, you're not living in your heart - you're likely living in your head. In your heart there is no anger, there's no passive-aggressiveness, and there's no fear.

I'm not saying that if somebody physically, verbally, or emotionally abuses you, you should respond with a "love and light" attitude.

Absolutely NOT! Always put boundaries in place and protect yourself at all costs.
I simply suggest thinking about what you're absorbing on the daily as you interact with your close circles. Is this really how you want to operate for the rest of your life?

What head-based behaviors do you no longer wish to tolerate (in yourself and others)?
Value your thoughts and your mind, but always remember to make the journey back down to the heart.