August 21, 2025

75: 6 LIES your brain tells you when you’re Anxiously Attached (and how THIS sabotages your Relationships without you realizing)

18 minutes

Ever spiral after a text delay?

Feel rejected by a vibe shift?

Think “this ALWAYS happens” - even if it’s just once?

That’s not you being “crazy” or “too much.”

It’s your brain running on ✨anxious survival mode✨ whispering LIES it thinks will protect you 😳

In this episode, we’re calling out the 6 BIGGEST cognitive distortions your anxious brain tells you when it feels unsafe - and giving them a loving reality check

You’ll learn:

🧠 Why “I feel it, so it must be true” is NOT the whole truth

🪫 The sneaky spiral of catastrophizing (aka “it’s over” after a 3-hour text delay)

🧨 How “mind reading” + “shoulds” quietly sabotage your connection

🪞 Why your brain blames YOU (or them) and what to do instead

💬 Powerful coaching questions to interrupt spirals in the moment

📝 A 7-day challenge to start REWIRING your inner stories + get real results

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Like….

Attachment Style QUIZ – Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ

Anxious ArcheTYPE QUIZ – Discover which of the 4 archetypes you are and how you manage your stress and anxiety

✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached

How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

CHAPTERS:

00:00 6 LIES Your Brain Tells You When You’re Anxiously Attached

01:44 01 Emotional Reasoning

03:43 O2 Overgeneralization

06:28 03 Should Statements

08:34 04 Labeling and Blaming

10:11 05 Mind Reading

12:49 06 Catastrophizing

15:05 Challenging Cognitive Distortions to feel less anxious

15:53 Cognitive Distortion Exercise for 7 days

This episode will help you stop believing everything your anxious mind says

So you can:

➞ Create more emotional safety

➞ Stop the spiral before it ruins your connection

➞ Trust yourself again

PS: Awareness is powerful…

But action = real transformation

▶️ Listen in now to spot your anxious brain’s biggest tricks — and rewrite them

Your future secure self is already PROUD of you

Ready to stop spiraling, chasing, and questioning your worth in love?

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach

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