Have you ever written an email or letter to someone who you were frustrated with?

It's tempting to send a scathing message to someone to prove them wrong or to express how miserable they made your life, because it feels really good to express yourself.

However, when the main goal of a letter or email is to vent off frustration and to prove yourself right to the other person, then that is an angry letter or email.

Angry messages are not assertive. They don't address problems, they don't improve the relationships, they don't change other people's behaviors, and they won't make you feel better. They also cause more friction and don't get others to empathize with your situation.

A Chinese proverb says "Never write a letter while you are angry" especially if you don't want to have regrets later.

Angry letters are great if written and left unsent. They help you better cope with frustration, name your negative emotions, and release them.

Here are 8 questions to help you identify if you wrote an angry letter that will make the problem worse.

And 4 things to avoid saying when you are angry at someone.

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