There is a problem that intelligence can never solve no matter how much more discipline, optimization, or analysis you ever do. Intelligence gives you a map. And you can always fill in more details for this map.

But this problem is in a completely different territory. In fact, that's why it's harder to solve the smarter you are.

Take, for example, a story from my own life that I share at the end of this episode. I won't spoil it all here, but my wife said something to me—and I had all the intellectual ammo around the problem. I knew exactly which parts were activated and their entire history. None of it helped. To actually connect with her in that moment, I had to act in the complete opposite way my instincts wanted.

And that's what I call "Self-Strength."

It's not emotional intelligence. It's not self-awareness. It's not resilience in the motivational poster sense.

It's something far more foundational than that. Something that's not taught in school, in business trainings, or in most families.

But it IS something that can be learned and practiced. And when you finally "get" it, something different and stranger happens:

You become more alive to experience. To emotion. And to fulfillment.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• The specific vulnerability high functioning people carry without ever learning until it's far too late (1:32)
• Why "Self-Strength" can fulfill your soul in ways endless optimizing and achieving can never even sniff (2:19)
• A particularly damaging myth (that's dumped into your subconscious from an early age) that keeps high achievers stuck, lost, and unfulfilled even as they pile on more achievements (3:30)
• How the natural inclination to optimize is one of the sneakiest defense mechanisms there is (and why this preys on the smartest among us) (3:45)
• Here is a crystal clear definition of "Self-Strength" and what it does NOT mean (the latter is arguably more important because it sends you down the wrong paths) (5:56)
• The "river and the stone" secret for conceptualizing the role "Self-Strength" plays in your life (6:15)
• 4 examples of how high "Self-Strength" plays out in real life and colors the same situation in lighter hues (7:42)
• 4 of the most common warning signs of low "Self-Strength" that you probably never realized (11:59)
• How low "Self-Strength" becomes contagious and makes your nervous system someone else's problem (15:59)
• A never-before-told story from my personal life that happened long after I got my Ph.D that demonstrates in perfect detail why "Self-Strength" is not a problem that intelligence, reasoning, or optimizing can solve (16:53)

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

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