Today, I am thrilled to have Eli Harwood, a leading expert in attachment relationships, join us. With 17 years of experience as a licensed therapist, Eli has devoted her career to understanding how we connect and heal. Join us as we embark on a journey from theory to practice, exploring the importance of secure attachment and its impact on relationships and parenting.

In this episode, Eli shares her extensive experience and expertise, offering insights gleaned from years of attachment research. From debunking cultural myths surrounding attachment parenting to defining the core concepts of attachment theory, Eli guides us through the intricacies of forming secure bonds with our loved ones.

Discover practical strategies for navigating modern parenting challenges, including realigning with your children after conflict, and striking a balance between attachment and independence. Explore the CALM approach to regulating a child's emotions and learn how to address the legacy of insecure attachment with compassion and understanding.

Let’s dive in.

00:00 Introduction

02:01 The Importance of Secure Attachment

05:58 Eli Harwood’s Journey in Attachment Research

08:29 Debunking Cultural Myths of Attachment Parenting

12:05 Core Concepts of Attachment Theory

22:02 Defining Secure Attachment

22:49 Modern Parenting Challenges in Achieving Secure Attachment

27:24 Realigning with Your Kids After Conflict

30:12 Balancing Attachment and Child Independence

35:00 Benchmarking Secure Attachment

37:22 Repairing the Parent-Child Bond After Conflict

38:03 Regulating a Child’s Emotions: The CALM Approach

42:21 Addressing the Legacy of Insecure Attachment

43:40 Building Secure Attachment

46:15 Final Thoughts

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