Unrequited love can take down even the most capable, confident women, and Hilary is done watching smart, high-achieving women lose themselves over someone who can’t meet them where they are. This episode is a call back to your power, especially in those moments when your mind is spinning, your heart is hopeful, and the person you want isn’t choosing you back.

Hilary dives into the shame, the second-guessing, and the quiet panic that shows up when you start making someone else’s behavior mean something about your worth. She offers a clearer way to see what’s really happening, why these patterns feel so magnetic, and what becomes possible when you stop interpreting someone’s “no” as proof that you’re not enough.

Instead of chasing, contorting, or holding on to hope that never turns into reality, Hilary invites you to be honest with yourself: would you want this person if fear wasn’t making the decisions? She shares the shifts that helped her stop abandoning herself in dating, including the seven things she quit while she was single that opened her up to real love.

If you’re ready to step out of the spiral and back into self-respect, this episode is your starting place.

Episode Highlights:

Why unrequited love hits even the strongest women

The subtle ways self-abandonment shows up in dating

The lock-and-key truth that makes dating cleaner and calmer

The questions that reveal whether someone is actually right for you

The seven things Hilary quit that opened the door to real love

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Celebrating Women and the Pain of Unrequited Love

03:03 Understanding Self-Worth and Rejection

05:50 The Key and Lock Analogy in Relationships

09:07 Quitting Behaviors That Sabotage Love

17:58 Embracing Your Innate Worthiness 

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve? 

🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

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