You've been making the biggest decisions of your life through a distorted signal you mistake for judgment. Nothing's wrong with you. This happens to nearly every achiever, for the same reason.

Early on, you exiled parts of yourself so that the part that wins could take over. And it worked. That part is the source for everything you've built.

The cost shows up only later, as a slow dimming: Nothing excites you the way it once did. Problems get solved, efficiently, with no one home in the doing of it. It looks productive. But that's why it's so confusing.

Live 20-plus years like this and you chalk it up to aging, or being tired, or being too busy. You keep trudging, sure something fundamental is missing, unable to point at what.

How about acting without first calculating the return? Being with someone without micro-managing it? The plain ability to just be fully present?

If you're tired of a life that gets a little duller each day, listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• Why you aren't the disciplined, controlling, performance-oriented self that built your career and created all your achievements (and why this is liberating!) (2:25)

• How "pure curiosity" can instantly add depth and color to your flat and dull life (3:06)

• What it means psychologically if your burnout doesn't dissolve after you've returned from that vacation you've been looking forward to for months (4:20)

• The insidious illusion of the "Mono Mind Paradigm" and why it snatches away the dials of fulfillment to turn your life into a dull shade of gray (5:18)

• The "Self is Plural" secret that's a prerequisite for profound fulfillment in life (5:49)

• How changing a single word in an oft-repeated sentence we utter to ourselves can give you an entirely new perspective on life (it sounds too simple to work, but you'll shock yourself with how effective it can be) (9:30)

• Why trying to achieve yourself to feeling alive only tragically pushes your aliveness further away (15:55)

• The "8 C's and 5 P's" that relax your protectors and managers, allow your exiles to thaw, and creates a newfound feeling of fulfillment and joy (20:04)

• Do you ever yearn for the playful exuberance that came so naturally and easily as a child? Here's the hard way to get it back (21:42)

• How accepting your mind as a system of parts (which isn't a metaphor or a disorder) grants you the childlike aliveness you haven't experienced in decades (34:08)

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