Beyond Success

#95: You Can't Earn Your Way to Being Loved


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You've spent your life earning. Get good enough, smart enough, successful enough, and surely the love follows. It's the most reasonable plan in the world. You've been running it since before you could speak in full sentences.

But it doesn't work. Not because you haven't earned enough yet. But because the whole thing rests on a mistake about how love works, and some part of you signed off on that mistake a long time ago.

This episode takes the mistake apart, one piece at a time, until there's nothing left holding it up.

If you're smart, you're already arguing with me. Good. Bring the argument. This one is built for the part of you that reasons, not the part that wants reassurance.

By the end you'll see what your worth was actually resting on the whole time. It was never what you mistakenly thought. And once you see it, the math you've been running on yourself stops adding up in the old, cruel, false way.

Hit play. Then tell me where the argument breaks.

Show Highlights Include:

  • The rational explanation behind why you don't feel worthy of love (and irrefutable proof this is false) (3:25)

  • How modern society squeezes two definitions into one word and why this makes your internal state go haywire (8:52)

  • Why fictional characters like Homelander from The Boys prove that you can have all the qualities that are supposed to measure your own self-worth and yet, you still lack it (11:24)

  • Don't feel worthy of love emotionally? Here's the logical reason you are: (18:51)

  • The only 2 currencies according to renowned philosopher Immanuel Kant (and why only one of these currencies can be earned) (20:01)

  • How to love yourself even when she doesn't love you back (23:29)

  • What I wish I understood before almost taking my own life (26:25)

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

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