Staying fit and confident as you age has NOTHING to do with discipline or rules and everything to do with how devoted you are to yourself.

Most fitness advice for women over 40 is exhausting. Push harder. Try again. Do more. Hilary says what a lot of women are already feeling but rarely hear out loud. That approach is not making you stronger. It is just making you tired. And it is definitely not building confidence.

In this episode, Hilary shares the five principles that help her stay super fit without punishing her body or living by rigid rules. The conversation goes straight to the pattern underneath it all. Treating your body like a project that needs fixing. Handing your power to experts. Following rules that stop working and then blaming yourself when they fail. What if your body actually knows what it needs? What if consistency came from enjoying what you are doing instead of forcing it?

This is not about food plans or workout schedules. It is about putting yourself back on your own list. When you stop making yourself optional, things shift. Your energy changes. Your body responds. You start to feel more like yourself again!

Episode Highlights:

Why pushing harder is not the answer

The mindset shift that makes fitness stick

Letting go of rules and trusting your body

Choosing movement that actually feels good

What changes when you make yourself the priority

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 Why “Discipline” Stops Working for Women as They Age

07:19 The Shift From Self-Discipline to Self-Devotion

10:39 Stop Following Fitness Rules and Trust Your Body

12:32 Making Movement Enjoyable

15:17 Making Yourself the Priority Changes Everything

✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers.

💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice.

🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.

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