In this question from the avoidant attachment subreddit a fearful avoidant, also known as a disorganized attachment style person, is wondering how much time is too much time when starting to date someone new. The person believes they are dating an anxious attachment style person. And that person already wants to spend hours with the fearful avoidant person, which of course can scare off an avoidant attachment style person real quick.

If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style I have 2 links for you to check out. The first link is very quick and offers up some classes on attachment style from The Personal Development School runned by the well known attachment style therapist Thais Gibson. The second link is more detaled and you can take several times over different parts of your life to see how you've changed.

I also have links for two attachment style books I recommend. And also some online therapy options including Better Help.

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