Am I the asshole subreddit is the topic today. I go over a woman who doesn't want her husband to know the sex of their baby because he doesn't show up for any doctors appointments. The other story is a difficult bridesmaid who doesn't want to wear her bridesmaid dress.

We are going over two Am I the Asshole subreddits. We will discuss a few adult children having to deal with difficult situations with their parents. 

We are going over two subreddits about the attachment styles. Or attachment theory as some know it. We discuss every attachment style; the fearful avoidant attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the secure attachment style, and the dismissive avoidant attachment style.

We are going over the four attachment styles. We are going over the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the disimissive avoidant attachment style, the fearful avoidant attachment style, and the secure attachment style.

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Avoidant Book:

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Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Today we are talking about a guy who is improving his anxious attachment style when his girlfriend goes out with her friends. And we are asking if a woman who told another parent to fuck off, is she the asshole?

Attachment Quiz Option 1: https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz Option 2: http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.p

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I am discussing attachment styles during holidays or significant events. The main focus will be on the avoidant attachment style. They tend to not like significant events and their attachment system may become triggered. I will also discuss the anxious attachment style.

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs

Betterhelp Online Therapy Discount:

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Am I The Asshole today covers naan bread drama and sloppy seconds. A boyfriend has special rules for his girlfriend with them sharing naan bread. And two sisters having drama due to having dated the same guy. Who will be the asshole?

In this episode we discuss the anxious avoidant trap. This is a challenging relationship where you have an anxious attachmen style in a relationship with an avoidant attachment style. This relationship tends to be long and dysfunctional. The anxious attachment style person wants closeness and intimacy. The avoidant wants space and is uncomfortable with intimacy. The anxious attachment style has learned to calm down their attachment system by being cloeser to their partner. The avoidant attachment style has learned getting space from their partner keeps their attachment system from being triggered. And this is why they struggle in a relationship together.

If you don't know your attachment style makeup, here are two options to help you. Plus plenty of other resources. 

Attachment Quiz Option 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz Option 2:

https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs

Better Help Online Therapy Discount:

https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments

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A subreddit asks if anyone has had success becoming more of a secure attachment style. I read the question and some comments of some who have had some success become more of a secure attachment style. One of the key things for single people is to choose a partner who doesn't trigger your attachment style. 

The comments are coming from those with a preoccupied anxious attachment style. If you don't know your strongest attachment style I have two attachment style quizzes to help you out. The first one is less detailed but also has material to assist in your attachment style journey. The second link is more detailed and I recommend doing it several times during different times in your life to see you progress or lack of progress. Or see how someone is affecting your attachment style.

The four attachment styles are the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style. You will have all of the attachment styles but at different levels. You will most likely be stronger in one attachment style. 

You can also learn attachment styles from me on TikTok and YouTube Shorts at @relationshipattachments.

Here is the link for the book on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) for those interested in researching that:

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Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

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Avoidant Book:

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I am discussing the Strange Situation Text used to group peole into four attachment styles. The strange situation test is a widely used experimental procedure in developmental psychology to assess attachment patterns between infants or young children and their primary caregivers. The children were aged 12 to 24 months.

The main objective of the strange situation test is to observe and understand how children react to brief separations from and reunions with their caregivers in a controlled and unfamiliar environment. The text provides valuable insights into the child's attachment style, which is critical aspect of early socio-emotional development. 

If you don't know if your strongest attachment style is the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, or the fearful avoidant attachment style, also known as the disorganized attachment style, I have two links to help you figure that out.

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Better Help Online Therapy 10% Discount:

https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments

Online-Therapy Discount:

https://onlinetherapy.go2cloud.org/aff_c?offer_id=2&aff_id=2492

Attached book:

https://amzn.to/3XYqMLX

Avoidant book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs