A subreddit asks if anyone has had success becoming more of a secure attachment style. I read the question and some comments of some who have had some success become more of a secure attachment style. One of the key things for single people is to choose a partner who doesn't trigger your attachment style. 

The comments are coming from those with a preoccupied anxious attachment style. If you don't know your strongest attachment style I have two attachment style quizzes to help you out. The first one is less detailed but also has material to assist in your attachment style journey. The second link is more detailed and I recommend doing it several times during different times in your life to see you progress or lack of progress. Or see how someone is affecting your attachment style.

The four attachment styles are the secure attachment style, the preoccupied anxious attachment style, the dismissive avoidant attachment style, and the fearful avoidant attachment style, which is also known as the disorganized attachment style. You will have all of the attachment styles but at different levels. You will most likely be stronger in one attachment style. 

You can also learn attachment styles from me on TikTok and YouTube Shorts at @relationshipattachments.

Here is the link for the book on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) for those interested in researching that:

https://amzn.to/3YmuqiG

Attachment Quiz 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz 2:

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Better Help Link with 10% discount:

https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments

Online-Therapy:

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Attached Book:

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Avoidant Book:

https://amzn.to/3Dlaovs