In this episode we discuss the anxious avoidant trap. This is a challenging relationship where you have an anxious attachmen style in a relationship with an avoidant attachment style. This relationship tends to be long and dysfunctional. The anxious attachment style person wants closeness and intimacy. The avoidant wants space and is uncomfortable with intimacy. The anxious attachment style has learned to calm down their attachment system by being cloeser to their partner. The avoidant attachment style has learned getting space from their partner keeps their attachment system from being triggered. And this is why they struggle in a relationship together.

If you don't know your attachment style makeup, here are two options to help you. Plus plenty of other resources. 

Attachment Quiz Option 1:

https://pds.idevaffiliate.com/151.html

Attachment Quiz Option 2:

https://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

Attached Book:

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Avoidant Book:

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Better Help Online Therapy Discount:

https://betterhelp.com/relationshipattachments

 

 

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